Prospective Students, Clients, etc.
Not a doctor, not a therapist (1312)
Hi there,
My books are opening soon, and gone are the days of relying on word-of-mouth and keeping this work low-key! I teach and practice relational healing, a recovery process that occurs by care-oriented collaboration with people invested in a more loving world. I provide experiences that aid in recovery from what sticks to us after we survive bad shit. I help people get on their own side.
I’m not a therapist and I’m not a doctor; I resent the term “life coach” but I’m not afraid to use it. This isn’t a medicinal, patient-centered dynamic. I don’t know your mind, experience, or needs any better than you; I simply hold an abundance of tools and perspectives that can unravel the burdens we carry. I also really fucking care.
Those who know me from Tiktok or my other essays, particularly this one, may notice how much easier it can be to release shame and grief in the care of a nonjudgmental SW. But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Re: Relational Healing
This is my purpose as I understand it:
I exist primarily to connect people who desire a more loving world. I offer care in showing people how and why to trust themselves; the work opens my clients/students/whatever to connection with aligned, trustworthy people. The work is hard and it’s transformative. In the process of relational healing, unbecoming and rebirth bursts inherited barriers. Possibility blooms in their place. These changes naturally materialize into connections and projects that build a more-loving-world.
I’m not a crazed white person arguing that you can think your way out of racism, ableism, or war; that part of manifestation dogma is harmful and untrue. Rather, together my comrades and I work on discerning and shifting what’s within our personal power and control while recognizing how inherited systems shape our perspectives and very real experiences.
You have to see it to believe the way it unfolds, but it makes a significant difference in how we interact with reality.
On Beginning
My personal experience, research, and collaborative healing experience with others makes me exceptionally skilled at helping late-diagnosed neurodivergent people get on their own side. In particular, I value developing these capacities with other crazy/mad/dissociative people, queer and/or nonmonogamous people, creative people, people with religious trauma, people experiencing all forms of grief, people who survived abusive and/or neglectful caregivers, and previous/current sex workers.
Availability is widening but limited. I reserve the right to use my own discernment in choosing who I work with.
I’m doing everything I can to destabilize the empire through education and care. I do this while maintaining my own recovery process which is entirely necessary to be available as I am. All of these components are necessary to furthering my existence; none are removable from the others.
I do healing work for myself. I do it in collaboration with others. Perhaps we will work together, too.
On Finances
Initially, I hoped to provide care completely cost-free— following the footsteps of the visionary (living!) teacher, Ismatu Gwendolyn. People who need care the most often have the least wealth and the least access. It’s not that I undervalue my offerings; All cost is a barrier. It’s my strong desire to reach my material needs through writing and public investment.
In practice, I found that financial insecurity affected what quality of care I could provide. Financial stability is trauma-recovery. It’s with grief that I share this: as of today, the care service I can do isn’t free— for the most part.
I’m sorry. I want this to change.
In that light, I invite one or two people with material wealth to inquire further. These clients have a standard of living that doesn’t require them to check their bank account before ordering take-out or booking a vacation. These clients never pull from their 401k etc. to pay a bill. I ask for your income and assets to determine, by a fair scale, the financial investment required. It’s no less than $150/session.
I offer scholarships. Cost-free care sessions are reserved exclusively for working-class or impoverished people of the global majority. I also provide reduced-rate sessions for the rest of us within the working-class/surviving poverty.
No shame. We didn’t invent class oppression.
As of now, I have one of four weekly sessions open to people of working-class or low-income status. These sessions are $40+, depending on what you are able to contribute without causing ANY stress. I do NOT want sessions to become a source of financial anxiety. This boundary stabilizes the safety of the space we create together and assures me that our work has the capacity to be effective.
I’m deeply remorseful to disclose that currently no-cost sessions are full. When I have another student/client of financial privilege, this will change immediately. It can also change when I gain 10 more paid subscribers here— though promoting my writing is not a top priority. My studies and students/clients are.
Thank you to my materially abundant clients; Thank you to my Substack subscribers. You help make scholarships possible. Your solidarity in love and care make quite a difference, but I hope you knew that before reading it here.
Interested parties may inquire further: alice.kellyy@protonmail.com .
I’m curious about what you want to experience differently, what you want to see in the world, a general idea of what history and habits trouble you, and any additional information you think I should know!
Much love,
Alice
and I don’t want to be. However, I am finishing a certification in Somatic Internal Family Systems from the Embody Lab.
I luv the line about destabilizing the empire! Thats really how it feels